Where are you in your current relationship (Engaged or married)?

Are you at the discovery or shared values and interests stage?

Whatever stage you are, strive to get to the point of sharing the picture of a preferable future together. At this stage, the end picture helps in resolving immediate issues because it is seen as a stepping stone to achieving the ultimate picture.

It will help you:

1. Understand that resolving issues is part of the process to get to the end you have in view.
   Anyone living with the mindset of; “Smooth sail ride without bumps” will sign in for continual disappointments and frustrations. The earlier one admits that it is part of the package, the better for the person. It will no longer be a question of whether or not, but when.
2. Have the right interpretation to issues at every stage of the process. It will help you see the intentions behind whatever is causing the issues instead of focusing on the approach that generated those issues.

For instance, Instead of saying;

“I don’t like how my partner acted”,

You can say;

“Why is my partner acting this way?”

This will give you a completely different perspective. This delivered me at some point in our marriage and I believe it is what someone need to get past your current stage.

1. Accommodate each other’s strengths and weaknesses as a necessary step to develop traits that aids blissful experience. You will notice that what should have been lacking in an area of one person in the relationship is taken care of by the other partner if the people concerned are humble enough to be vulnerable.
2. See how much you need each other to make things work. Working together with a reasonable and responsible partner as a team member produces better result than individual efforts added together.

You will experience bliss!