There is a sense in which if you don’t re-orient your mindset, you might probably want people to reason and act the way you do. It is just human nature to naturally be selfish, wanting things done your way.

In relationships, there is a possibility of transferring that mindset into it. As long as that mindset is fixed, bearing with each other’s divergent views could be pretty difficult. It is just a matter of time that either or both partners become weary of each other. Weariness extended would soon get to a breaking point where partners might resolve to go their separate ways.

This same mindset would prevent parties in a relationship from accommodating one another. Once you don’t see your partner’s point of view, you will find it difficult to accommodate.

I can assure you that waiting to see someone agree with all your views is believing that you can physically touch the mirage ahead of you.

The likely way you might have someone agree with all your views is to have someone whose self-image has been badly affected to the point where he or she always seeks validation from you.

We all need to do something about this so that we can master the art of listening and at the same time have a sense of empathy towards one another.

How can these be made possible?

1. Accept the reality that we are different.
2. Be willing to adapt to changes and flexible enough to accommodate differences.
3. Accept the reality that you have weaknesses as well, the same way you could see weaknesses in your partner.
4. Be willing to have a healthy conversation with your partner to deal with the differences.
5. Go beyond the discussion. Take deliberate steps to adapting to the new reality of your new phase.

It is my prayer that your relationship will experience a turnaround. It will become a reference to other relationships.

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