The concept of sex means different things to different people in its approach and style. I have come to understand that as important as it is, it is a subject that many people in some part of the world finds difficult to discuss. The subject is not easily discussed, yet it is one of the major factors that create problems in homes. If it creates such problems, then I feel strongly that it is hypocritical not to discuss it openly for the benefit of the people concerned.
People are wired differently with different backgrounds and understanding. It is more sensitive to some while it is less for others. Whichever way it swings, the fact remained that if it is not adequately dealt with at the stage of being a single, it will continue to take its eventual toll on families and statistics will also be on the increase in its negative impact.
Interestingly, It comes across as a needful knowledge to know that we are sexual beings, driven by hormonal glands in our systems. It’s a sheer deception to say sexual urge doesn’t really matter or exist. In fact, not feeling it is indicative of an inherent problem.
According to Wikipedia: Testosterone is a steroid hormone from the androgen group and is found in humans and other vertebrates. In humans and other mammals, testosterone it is secreted primarily by the testicles of males and, to a lesser extent, the ovaries of females. Small amounts are also secreted by the adrenal glands. It is the principal male sex hormone and an anabolic steroid.
In men, testosterone plays a key role in the development of male reproductive tissues such as the testis and prostate as well as promoting secondary sexual characteristics such as increased muscle, bone mass, and the growth of body hair.
If it is a core part of our human system, then it will not make any sense for us to pretend that it is not present in our hormones. I once heard an amusing story about a guy who was engaged to a lady. Whenever they were with each other, he finds it embarrassing when sexual urge comes upon him. He decided to visit a pastor that he wants the demon responsible for sexual urge to be cast out of his body. In response, the pastor said that implies that he also needs a deliverer as well because he suffers from the same symptom.
Having the urge towards someone you love or attracted to is not the main issue.The real issue is who is in control of the other? Is the urge in control of you or you are in control of the urge?Taking a mental summersault to office setting between colleagues, boss/subordinate or subordinate/boss relationship, it will interest you to note that it’s not a respecter of anyone no matter your echelon(class or rank).
In addendum, It is equally important to know that it is inherent in children, adolescents and teenagers. This goes to confirm that it is a prevailent phenomenon among all human beings. It is therefore not about denying its presence in us rather it is more about accepting its reality and knowing how best to be in control of its power and the appropriateness of its use. There is a story of a man who revealed that he used to feel funny in a sexual way towards the lady he intended to get married to. And then he thought to himself, there is a problem with me that needs to be dealt with because he has decided that they were not going to sleep with each other until they get married.
However, he sees this issue of sexual urge as a monster haunting him to fail in his resolve of holding on until the wedding night. Feeling so concerned and bordered, he decided to seek for counsel on how to deal with the situation. He sought the counsel of a senior colleague who was also engaged and narrated his ordeal to him. He told the senior colleague that he thinks something is seriously wrong with him. Listening with amusement, the friend responded that it also implies that he equally needs help. The colleague went further to explain how such feeling is not much of a problem as to how such experience is handled.
For the married, some people might think having feelings towards another person other that their spouse is satanic. It is just natural to have these emotional feelings towards someone else. The main concern is how you tame such feelings. It is one thing to have such emotional feelings towards someone, it is totally a different ball game harboring and prolonging such emotional feelings to the point where it causes you to act accordingly.
We shall be looking at the following stated peculiarities as it relates to sexual experience before you say i do.
Handling Sexual Urge. Why is it so strong?
How far is too far?
Myths about sex before marriage.
Handling shame that comes with sex.
Overcoming sexual addiction.
How to begin the sex journey.
Handling the first night/week
Peculiarities In The Combination of Male and Female Past Sex Experiences:
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