When you don’t have a full picture of a thing, the likelihood is that you might not be able to maximize the use of that thing.

When you don’t have a full understanding of what marriage is all about, it is likely for you to misuse it’s intended purpose.

In marriage, knowledge gap is a major factor responsible for strains and frustrations.

Some people have the knowledge, but differences in values and mindsets are major roadblocks to experiencing harmony and peace.

If it looks like you are frequently overwhelmed with challenges in your relationship, it might be a sign of a knowledge gap.

If you find yourself in a counseling session with a professional and it seemed you are finding it difficult to adapt to new perspectives given, then you might want to check the mindsets and values that drive your decisions. They could be deeply rooted to the point of making it difficult to let go.

In order for you to make meaningful progress in your relationship, you have to evolve and embrace the reality of the new phase you find yourself per time. You have to take responsibility to acquire the required knowledge accompanied by the willingness to act for every phase in your relationship.

For instance;

How things work being single will be different from being married.

How things work as a newly wedded person would be different from when children start coming.

How things work with only you and your spouse would be totally different from introducing parents and in-laws into the equation.

How things work during financial hardship might also be different from the season you start experiencing financial freedom.

How things work from the family you were raised in would be different from how your partner was raised.

When you come together as partners, it would obviously alter the state of things in that relationship.

The list is endless…..

None of these are easy. In order to align with the path to recovery and blissful experience, you might want to begin to:

1. Admit and adjusting some areas of what you used to be and do.
   2. Face the reality of the responsibility you have to accept in order to make such progressive changes happen.
2. Be resolved never to allow setbacks to stop you from making progress. One of the ways that can help you is to develop a mentoring relationship you are accountable to. You can possibly schedule appointments from time to time with this family, not only when you have challenges, but to equally share views from time to time. It will help your worldview and help you put different challenges in your own home in proper context and understanding. SOME STATEMENTS DELETED HERE

There is a need to approach things from the big picture because it will help you consider more angles to the whole subject. If it still feels overwhelming, you might want to consider seeing a professional counselor.

You will experience bliss!