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Relationship Missing Link 103

Posted by : Dele Agbogun Posted date : May 17, 2012 In Marriage 0

We will be continuing on the missing links in relationships that is meant to end in marriage.

Relationships of this kind should be seen as a call to stewardship, friendship and a lifetime of commitment.

A healthy relationship is one that takes selfish ambitions, desires and self indulging gratifications out of the way. This is a link that has to be re-tightened in our present day relationships.

The following simple tips will strengthened any marriage/relationships that tend towards that are intended to end in marriage. View this from two angles: The one within the control of the two parties and the one outside your control.

What you can Control

* Fun

A relationship should be lively. You need to spice it up and this is absolutely within the control of the two parties. Spicing can mean taking interest in what interest your partner or getting to understand each others purposes in life.

* Encouragement

You need to life each other up. There are times it’s the man that is down. And some other times, the lady. Words are seeds, they either make or break. You must show love and affection to your partner.

* Honesty, forgiveness and trust

Transparency and openness plays a healthy role A good foundation for any relationship that will be successful is premised on these. Most relationships, and marriages that thrives has this as a strong link existing.

* Communication

Listening is a key link in communication. You need to be able to discuss freely and express your thought, feelings, news and views without fear.

* Compromise

Be ready and willing to give and take, being selfless at times for your partner’s sake. Put your partner’s interest before your own. You must seek to practice true humility in servant-leadership model.

What you can’t Control

* Background influences

There are customs, traditional beliefs, values and affluence, which forms our belief system and attitude while growing up; but your responsibility in marriage is first to God and then your partner before people and traditions. So treat your partner with dignity and respect.

* Social Life

The friends you keep have a great potential to influence your values. And your values impacts on your relationship. Values of the two parties have to be compatible for a healthy relationship. If not, there will be conflict of values and can cause serious damage to the relationship.

* Work

Don’t be too outwardly focused to the detriment of your relationship (Tending to marriage or a marriage relationship).

You must reorder your priorities. After God, comes your family, before work, friends, extended family members and other values of life.