Going into a relationship requires a healthy reason(s). Failure to have this good reason(s) can be catastrophic to the outcome of that relationship.
Let us look at the following reasons that inform some people’s decision to go into a relationship;
1To get back at one’s parents. Some people uses this as the basis for their choice. They want an escape route in the bid to look for a safety net.
Going into a relationship that has the potential of leading to marriage shouldn’t be based on this as there are a whole lot more to be considered for a relationship of this sort. The person’s view might see it as escape route, but in its actual sense, means entrapped in a world of regret.
2The concern about old age. This fear arises as a result of social pressure among peers, parents, church, society and friends. People in this category look at the present reality to the detriment of their future. The pressure says now, the truth says patient. The fact that some of your mates seems to have gone ahead does not necessarily mean yours is now. We all are in a vehicle taking us to different destination because of our varying purposes. Using other person’s template to run your life might be signing in for frustration resulting from disappointments.
3Negative Self Image. Your worth is not in your relationship. Your worth is in who you are. Who you are will determine the nature of your relationship. Any trace of issues surrounding self esteem, rejection and all known hurts MUST be dealt with before you attempt to enter into any relationship. You should see yourself as an asset/a contributor and not a burden to any relationship you enter.
4To be a counselor to your potential partner because of awful situations and circumstances of their past. Do not initiate any relationship that border on sentiment alone, especially the one related to help you rendered to someone in the past. A relationship that has the possibility of ending in marriage should not be approached in this manner. The fact that you helped out in some ways and this led to development of some feelings does not NECESSARILY mean that the person is the right person. More consideration have to be given to it before you finally enter into that relationship.
5.Fear of hurting a friend. Depending on your temperament type, PITY must be taking out when deciding on the type of relationship to go into. Pity thrive on sentiment, and sentiment is far from reality. You have to wake up to that reality that any lasting relationship has to be purposeful and deliberately worked on. You either choose to absorb the fear of hurting a friend and subsequently harm your relationship or line up with the truth and have a lasting peace and love.
6.A way out of emotional wound. Some people have this believe that entering another relationship has a way of healing the hurt from the previous one that did not work out. Fresh relationship is not an antidote to hurt from a broken relationship. You must allowyour heart to be totally healed before entering into another one. Failure to allow this is introducing further pain in the new relationship.
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