Maturity reduces friction. It takes trivial issues out of the way, preventing unnecessary exertion of energy and waste of time.
According to the dictionary, ‘maturity’ is the state or quality of being fully grown or developed. This subject plays an important role in every area of our lives. When you look at marriages, the impact of maturity is obvious. Couples quarrel over trivial matters to the point that they allow it to lead to separation. Or is it in the business world, transactions have revealed lots of immaturity displayed among business partners. Maturity that focuses on a win-win situation in any business transaction is thrown out of the window. Instead, it is a win-lose game most people love to play. This is equally seen in our relationships with other people. Self-centered attitude is more prevalent over a selfless one towards others.
It is when we have these gaps that friction comes in. The friction pulls on each person’s resources, energy and time. This is counter-productive to the parties concerned and ultimately to the organization, family and society at large.
I asked myself, how do you measure the maturity level of an individual, knowing the damaging consequences of immaturity on the society? My conclusion is that it must be relative from person to person. Then I pondered further and said to myself; there are specific features one should look at that will at least suggest to him/her the measure of maturity in the life of someone. Below are some briefly explained attributes I believe can be used to judge maturity;
a.First and foremost, understand that maturity is not finite. It is not an end, but an on-going improvement. Anne Bishop stated that; “There are some questions that shouldn’t be asked until a person is mature enough to appreciate the answers.”
b.Ability to listen and see things from other people’s viewpoints. You are clouded and limited if your judgments are based only on your views.
c.Ability to exercise constructive criticism if there are issues to be resolved.
d.Capacity to put your emotions under control.
e.Ability to go through challenges without allowing the experience influences your attitude towards other people.
f.Be willing to accept responsibility for the outcome of any action you take. It could be positive or negative. John Maxwell stated that; “The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up.”
BENEFITS OF MATURITY
1.Maturity fosters unity in whatever relationship you are in; in your organization, family life or relationship with other people. It helps people relate amiably with one another. When people relate maturely, it eases friction and unnecessary exertion of energy. This will in turn yield dividends; it yields more profit for the organization, enhances bonding and love in homes, and fosters healthy relationships among people.
2.In a similar vein to the categories mentioned above, maturity fosters stability. Stability enhances gradual and healthy growth.
3.Maturity helps you focus on priorities, not the trivial matters. The focused individual receives energy required to achieve the projected or assigned task(s) successfully.
4.Maturity makes you an objective person. It allows you to operate on standards, even when you are in a disadvantaged position about an issue or case. It takes sentiment away and makes you dwell on fairness and equity.
5.Maturity helps in decision making. It enhances objectivity, thus avoids colored judgments.
HOW MATURITY CAN BE DEVELOPED
a.A willing attitude and openness of heart to change. M.J. Croan stated that; “Maturity is when your world opens up and you realize that you are not the centre of it.”Human nature naturally abhors change. There must be a deliberate attempt to be yielded to this prevailing positive trend. This is because it can create a huge gap between your current reality and where the world is. This gap can make your approach to life generally be seen as immature.
b.Experience. Your experiences in life have a way of teaching you life’s lessons. It will be unfortunate if you don’t allow the situation of your life to build you up. Experiences of life differ from persons to persons, but the key denominator is that; it must never leave us the same way it met us. For some people, it makes them worse as they refuse to learn from it. For others, they use the seeming messy experience to create a message for themselves. To develop maturity therefore, you don’t allow the events of life break you, instead, you allow it make you.
c.Mentoring: There are people that have gone ahead of you either in your area of influence or certain areas of your life. When you are humble enough to submit, ask and learn from such people, you will ride on their successes without necessarily making the mistakes they made during their time. It is like climbing on their shoulders to see farther than them at the time they were in your position.
d.Training: There are certain trainings you need to embark on in order to increase your maturity level. Trainings in the area of management, leadership, communications and people skill are useful training tools that will enlarge your heart and also increase your understanding. People act based on their level of knowledge per time. John Maxwell talked about the law of the lead; “You cannot lead people beyond yourself.”
Though you cannot be 100% developed in your maturity level. We all grow from one level to the other. Maturity is a lifetime experience. We will keep growing in our level of maturity in all areas of life until we breathe our last breath on earth. The day you stop maturing or growing is the day you will start depreciating or losing the essence of your being. Commit therefore to a daily growth.
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