You might not have control over what goes on around you, but you have over the state of your heart.

When you allow negative emotion to overwhelm you, you are actually yielding control to the environment or the people causing it.

Yes, the situation of life may not go as anticipated, but you have a choice of allowing it to get you depressed or use them as stepping stones to make progress in life.

I am not saying it is like a walk in the park, but feeling weighed down will not solve the problem either. 

My last year in my undergraduate days was not palatable at all. My parents were in a financial crisis that led to my depending on what I can do for myself and with few friends on campus. Quite a long story from what to eat, to school fees, accommodation, final year project expenses and travels to the mandatory post university national service. It is easier said than experienced.

How did I survive?

I will get to that shortly after dropping  the following lines. 

Before you think of doing something with lasting negative consequences, kindly talk to someone. Sharing perspectives with other people might give a different view(s) to what you earlier shared. The seeming end you are looking at might just be a bend after all.

Again, what I did to survive?

1. I made up my mind that I will sail through somehow without compromising my values.
2. I became more dedicated to and depended on God.
3. I deliberately chose responsible friends who know where they are headed in life to mingle with.
4. I was open about my real state to the few friends.
5. I took the challenges as stepping stones to grow instead of allowing them to get me distracted or depressed.
6. I assured my parents that things are under control so that they don’t feel worse than they were already feeling.

It was a tough season for me, but it never left me the same way it met me. I became more resilient, mature and depended more on God for possibilities in the midst of most challenging situations.

It was this experience that birthed in me the “Can Do Spirit” that has brought me this far.

Trust me, the situation is not worth throwing in the towel. In the multitude of reasoning with other responsible people, there is clarity and possibilities.

The state of your heart will ultimately determine how far you can go in any given challenging situation you find yourself. 

This principle can be applied practically to any area of your life.

Cheers!