The first stage of gratitude is the gratitude for the gift of life. The only chance you have to be grateful for your partner (single or married) is when you are alive and also in your right mind.

Gratitude for life gives you the opportunity to express fragrance of gratitude towards your spouse or awaiting partner. If you are empty of gratitude, you will have nothing to offer to your partner. The saying that “you cannot give what you don’t have’’ holds true! I have seen scores of people behave irrationally, become irritants to people around them. People always try to avoid them because they have a way of annoying them by their attitude. I was also caught up in the web of judging this set of people as disgraceful and troublesome people until I had a better understanding of human psychology. It is true that hurting people hurt people. When they exhibit such annoying tantrums, underneath is a causative factor. Most of the times, it is a reaction from their hurting past experiences, relationships, parental related issues, guilt, low self-image, etc.

You should therefore be grateful for life. You are alive irrespective of the situation of the nation or hard season of your life. You are in your right mind; you have also been protected from harm over the years (known and unknown). You have to adopt the concept of “Focusing on solutions instead of focusing on problems”.

Personal Position to Maintain

1. Irrespective of your current circumstance(s), you should choose to see the positive side of life.
2. Your life might not have progressed as much as expected, but choose to appreciate the little progress you have made so far.
3. You might not be in a relationship yet, but be grateful because of the opportunity to learn and mature in readiness for the one ahead.
4. You might not have enjoyed the dynamics of the relationships of your parents, but use theirs as a learning pattern for yours.

You should indeed be grateful for the past, present and the future to come. Gratitude will open the gateway for ‘possibility’ thinking. It will make your thinking fluid by unfreezing it. And when ‘possibility’ thinking is set in motion, you will always see the brighter side of the relationship you are in or will eventually get in.

Remember, you can succeed in your relationships!