It is worthy of note that management of conflict has its good and ugly sides depending on how it is managed. This week’s article tends to focus on the concluding part of good management outcomes. Some of the outbursts experienced between husbands and wives during conflicts can actually be managed in a healthy manner. Maturity plays a critical role in this case. You might have come across couples advanced in age arguing and quarrelling on what you consider trivial matters. The same trivial matters become major issues that sometimes break homes. Meanwhile, you see similar scenarios in other homes, yet it fortifies the bond of unity instead of breaking the home.

Good Management Outcomes:

• It strengthens the bond of unity: The more the understanding between a couple the more the unity formed, and subsequently the more the bond between both parties. The growth and maturity stated in the first point ultimately aids the bond between you and your spouse. The essence of this bonding is to filter out any residual friction generated by the process of trying to understand each other better.
• It helps the synergy between husband and wife. It helps concentrate energy and efforts in one direction to get a bigger result, relative to individual effort. When purposes are unified, it reduces unnecessary dissipation, and increases the productivity level of both parties.

I will advice that you stay on the path of good management. If the current reality in your home is difficult to be situated in this picture, then you might have to talk to a qualified counsellor. This will help the two of you gain proper understanding and perspective to the issues on ground. One thing I must emphasise; “you should be willing to listen and shift ground on some issues”.

I experienced cases where either party lost hope of trying to make the marriage work. In worse cases, both parties decided they were going separate ways. Whatever similar situation you have in your home, I want to encourage that you find a way to involve a mature marriage counsellor. I will be dealing with more of this in the following articles
There will always be differences in our opinions, attitudes, approaches and ways of life. Compromises become inevitable to balance out our differences. Two rigid positions will be counterproductive for resolving conflicts. Individual ways will not result in a happy ending, neither will compromise be that easy, but when you put these two on a balance, unhappy ending should certainly be avoided.

Having understood the bad and good outcomes in conflict management, it is important to look at dealing with it the right way in order to attain marital bliss in your home.

Come along as I look into this from the next article.

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