I am patient enough not to expect sudden changes in my intended spouse.

1. Do you think what took about three decades to make your partner be who he or she is currently can be changed overnight?
2. How do you engage your partner in a discussion when you want to address such habits that you don’t like?

Whatever habit or attitude you see in your spouse or even in yourself wasn’t formed in a day. In our first year of marriage, I desired that my husband would change in certain areas and in my mind I wanted those changes to happen *’nownow’* . 

After fighting, sulking and demanding, I had to borrow myself some sense that it took time for some of those habits to form. So it is only wise that I also gave him *time* and *support* him in the process of unlearning old, limiting habits and learning new, empowering ones. After all, that habit may have been part of his life for over 10,20 years. Why did I think or expect that he would be able to perform magic and just form new habits in a matter of weeks?  Afterall we are humans!

So friends tell yourself I will not be frustrated, I wil not be overwhelmed, I will not expect instant changes in my relationship. 

Be deliberate. Recognise and Celebrate those little efforts, celebrate the small results and patiently but optimistically wait for the bigger changes. 

UwaAgbogun 

Your relationship will experience bliss!!