* Adaptability and flexibility: This is one of the nature missing in present day relationships.Ability to shift ground,knowing that the other party has a different background (culture,religion,environment etc) it takes deliberate effort and understanding to put yourself in your partner’s position and see issues from his/her perspective. You may see number 6 which is ok to you. But this might be in inverted form from his/her own view

* There are natural trials and challenges peculiar to every relationship. The earlier you wake up to this reality the better for the relationship.

* There is need for emotional stability. Inbalance in this regard results to inconsistent assessment,wrong judgement and negative reaction to the other party.
Inability to recognise and control your emotions is another critical factor missing out of the equation in relationships. The higher the level of emotional stability, the higher the chances of success.

* Inability to give and receive love is another area of concern in today’s relationship. The love that is based on feelings seems to take the order of the day. Not that feelings along with love is wrong. But basing your decisions on it alone is a grave mistake.

* The ability to understand and then cope with the background differences seems to be another divide experienced in relationships. You have to understand that you have different upbringing from different ideology, environment, temperament and possible culture.
Coping translate to what you cannot change. What you cannot change at times may be a blessing in disguise. It all depends on how you see it. But balance must be maintained to ensure that coping is not compromises with degrading values. Counselling is a key option when you find yourself between the two divides.