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Change: Evolving Dynamics

Posted by : Dele Agbogun Posted date : February 24, 2013 In Marriage 0

Our lives start out in its raw state and progressively evolve into effective and productive specie after we have undergone various phases in our life. Gold also evolve from its unattractive to its glittering and valued state after been processed. In this post, we shall be looking at possible factors responsible for getting someone into an hopeless state, the damaging effect of the state, what possible steps you can take to get out of the situation and what it takes to replicate this process.

Our lives start out in its raw state and progressively evolve into effective and productive specie after we have undergone various phases in our life.
The following are possible factors responsible for putting a person in such a deplorable, hopeless state;

1. Loss of either or both parents at tender age, and subjected to an uncaring guardian or foster parents.

2. Born into a poor family.

3. Born out of wedlock from parties not ready for marriage.

4. The person’s bad choice at early years.

5. The environment and its culture.

The above stated factors have damaging consequences to the affected person. Some of the consequences are outlined below;

1. Threat to the society. The affected person has the high tendencies to committing crimes due to pressure for survival. We must note that survival is man’s greatest instinct. When your life is threatened, any option put before you will be looked at before consequences are considered. Most of the time it will be too late before the person in question get to make consideration. Maslow Hierarchy of needs applies in this case. There were five levels identified, subdivided into three categories. The levels are respectively; Physiological and safety needs categorized under basic needs. Belongingness and love needs and esteem needs as psychological needs, and lastly esteem needs.

The first level of food, water, warmth and rest are the ingredients that fuel the tendency to do things that are threatening to the environment.

2. Expression of potentials gifts and talents are capped. When the person find himself or herself in this situation, he/she will not have such privilege of having the right environment and place to fully express his/her potentials. The result is usually settling for what is available, and this most of the time are usually not will give room for expression of gifts and talents.

3. Suffers low self-esteem. When you suffer setbacks, there is a very high tendency that your self-worth or image will be battered. You feel there are some things that are not meant for you, or certain heights you can never dream of getting to.

4. Vulnerable to abuse from other people with wicked intention. This consequence has tendencies to affect both the man and woman in this category. The man can be made to join a group with negative influence. He can eventually be used to perpetuate negative things because he might possibly feel indebted to such group, especially, when it seems as if they helped him out of a difficult situation. The case of the woman is that, she can be lured into wicked and immoral things, because of the seeming helpless state.
These are not healthy for the community or nation where such thrives. The next edition will look at the possible steps such person can take to be free from the situation. It will also look at how these could be replicated in order to reduce the damaging consequences to the society.