In my last article, I started on the topic; marrying for wrong reasons. In this week’s edition, I will be concluding on the same topic. It is important to note that wrong reasons can rock the foundation of your marriage. When foundation is destroyed, marriage becomes very difficult to build. Except the foundation is re-visited, efforts from either or both parties will be an unending disappointments and frustrations. This explained why I am looking at two-part article on the topic; marrying for wrong reasons.
The following are further wrong reasons you might want to pay attention to:
Do a small arithmetic with me.
Total your yes response
Total your No response
Add zero to each total.
This gives a fair idea of the person you are going to get married to. The higher your percentage on“YES”, the more likely you will succeed in your marriage “IF” you marry the person. The higher the percentage on “NO” the more likely you will fail in your marriage IF you are married to the person.
I will not say this analysis is exhaustive, but it does give you a glimpse into whether you will succeed or not in your marriage.
There is a discovery that there is more to marriage than just having sex. When the issue of child bearing, raising children, paying school fees, taking children to hospitals, working on developing the children to becoming a total child crop up, you will realise that there are other important issues of life that has not been considered.
Meanwhile, when you understand that marriage was instituted by God, then you want to pay attention to how God designed it to be run. When you look further, you will realise that God actually wants you to keep the act of sex till the night of your wedding. He also highlights the importance of sticking to one person. One person is enough job to work on. Increasing the number means increasing the headaches you will experience.
I usually ask; why get into what one is not ready for? If the impact of the consequences incurred is high, why not wait until one is mature and ready for such responsibility before getting involved sexually.
It is clear-cut from the points noted in this article that you have to marry for right reasons. Marrying based on these reasons will fail to withstand the true test of your commitment, love, loyalty and convictions towards each other. It is only in marrying with right reasons that you will experience secured marital bliss.
What are these reasons? Join me in my next article as we look at those reasons.