Individual ways that don’t take the partner’s view into consideration will either limit or not result in a happy ending.

I dealt with some cases where one major reason given for not considering partner’s view was primarily tied to the inability to agree. So, the best available option is to go ahead without necessarily considering the partner’s views. After all, an agreement was not reached and doesn’t look feasible. The mindset sometimes is usually; “MAYBE” we could resolve and agree on a later future.

When you are in a marriage relationship, you might not agree every time on issues, but it doesn’t necessarily give the license to go do your stuff without the involvement of your partner in the decision.

Wait and consider the implications between insisting on going ahead to carry out your own opinion without input from your partner. Weigh the possible implications and learn to discuss views, however divergent they may seem before going ahead with your decision.

While I agree that engaging in communication to thrash out divergent views could be tough sometimes, it is still the better approach out of the two. This approach will progressively get better “IF” handled well while the second approach will progressively get worse, creating strife between parties in the relationship.

How can I handle this in a healthy way?

1. Be assured that divergent views in a relationship are inevitable.
2. Come to terms that you have a collective responsibility with your partner to determine the health of your relationship.
3. Also, come to terms that things will not always swing in your direction. You would have to give up your opinion sometimes, especially when your partner has a superior one.
4. When your views are taken, try not to make your partner’s opinion that was dropped look irrelevant. Learn to pick the positive side of the opinion and comment on it. Sometimes, you can rework each other’s opinion to form the new one.
5. Learn to look at the outcomes of action(s) taken most of the times when it comes to considering each other’s views. This will help you accommodate each other’s opinion without entertaining selfishness.