Communication plays a critical role in any relationship; research has shown that communication makes up about 85% of any relationship. Communication is to marriage what blood is to life. In a nutshell, relationships void of effective communication are prone to incessant conflicts. Communication generally, is the sending and receiving of news, information, views, feelings and thoughts. Communication is not complete until the intended message has been transmitted, received and understood.
Communication becomes effective not only when the message has been transmitted and received, but also understood. Communication is the mortar that holds a relationship together – if it breaks down, the relationship will crumble. When spouses no longer communicate, a marriage void of good communication nurtures no one. It is no longer a marriage. True communication involves active energy on your part. This should have an improving impact as time progresses in your marriage walk.
The three critical interwoven components of communication are; Openness, Understanding and Trust. They are interwoven because you will definitely fail to understand each other in marriage when you are not sincere or transparent. Any relationship void of transparency is a relationship highly susceptible to dis-trust. Check the link; http://www.senseportal.org/2012/12/relationship-101-communication.html to get a fuller gist from the published article of December 2012.
There are spouses that started out well but whose relationship nosedived over a period of time. Starting out well is really not a guarantee that it will end well. Ending well is not a function of sitting down and crossing your legs and watch things deteriorate without any quick response. Response in this regard doesn’t mean senselessly running around from person to person, portraying your spouse as the one who has the major problem.
The expected effectiveness in communication between spouses is usually not what is experienced. There are usually gaps between expected and actual.
The possible outcomes of ineffective communication in marriage;
1. Frequent strife between spouses.
2. High level of misunderstanding between spouses.
3. Exertion of unnecessary time and energy on unproductive activities.
4. Interference from third parties in the relationship
5. It portrays the couple as immature.
The possible outcomes of effective communication in marriage;
1. Cordial and peaceful relationship between spouses.
2. Creation of bond between spouses, thus, increasing productivity.
3. It encourages team work and yields better results.
4. The bond created between the spouses serves as a strong shield against external influences.
5. It creates opportunity for a couple to be best of friends. It makes it go beyond traditional couple where you live without much life in the relationship.
Going by these two categories of communication stated above, if a family is in the first category, the situation might become critical. This is because there is a higher tendency for what is currently obtainable to go worse. That will be double calamity.
The families in the second category need not relax because communication is what you deliberately work on continuously. It is like driving a car with your leg on the accelerator. The fact that the car is at a high speed doesn’t mean the speed will remain constant. The constancy could only be maintained when the leg is steady on the accelerator; otherwise, it reduces the speed until it comes to a halt. As your marriage grow older, continuous mutual efforts are required to keep the effective communication in your marriage running. The next post will look at healthy guide towards allowing the time impact on your communication positively. For possible comments, question(s) and feedback, do a mail firstname.lastname@example.org
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