According to Merriam Webster; Infidelity is defined as a sexual encounter or relationship between a married person and someone other than their spouse.
Wikipedia also referred to infidelity as cheating, adultery, or having an affair. It is the subjective feeling that one’s partner has violated a set of rules or relationship norms and this violation results in feelings of sexual jealousy and rivalry (Leeker & Carlozzi, 2012).
The synonyms of infidelity are; cheating, immorality, unfaithfulness, promiscuity and flirtation.
Infidelity can mean physically involved sexually without emotions, emotionally involved with or without sex. Whichever one it is, it forms the subject of infidelity.
The purpose of these series of posts is to provide information that will be useful for:
1. People in relationships that are yet to get married. You might not be married today, but it’s certain, you will soon be either in a short run or in a long run. The information could be an expedient guide for your decision making when you get to the bridge.
2. Married couples.
3. Separated couples with plans to seek for divorce due to infidelity.
4. Divorced couples who want to reconsider the idea of coming back together after getting over a case of infidelity.
The strong hold of infidelity in any home is not a pleasant experience for both parties. The person having an affair and the person being cheated both have a share of this ugly experience, though the onus rests more on the person that was cheated. One might as well assume that the person having the affair seemed to be suffering less from the experience. However, the truth is, getting involved in an affair has the high tendency to make you keep secrets, lie on some things (using work as an excuse to keep late nights, embarking on trips that were never part of the original plans etc.). I am not sure it is a safe path to tread. You have to be on the edge every time because you MUST maintain your family relationship without giving room for any suspicion from your spouse.
This series will cover the following areas:
1. What infidelity is…?
2. Causes of Infidelity. What triggers it?
3. How not to fall.
4. How to handle a cheating spouse.
5. Getting off the lifestyle of infidelity.
6. Recovery from a hurting state.
Before I delve into the exploration, it will be helpful to consider a few statistics on this subject in order to substantiate our discussion on this journey. I have decided to copy and paste the research results I read with the link. It elaborated the facts and statistics about infidelity.
Given the secretive nature of infidelity, exact figures of cheating and extra-marital affairs are nearly impossible to establish. But, listed below are some of the most well-supported facts about cheating. All cited sources can be found on our reference page.
A· It is roughly estimated that between 30 to 60% of all married individuals, (in the United States),will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage (see, Buss and Shackelford for review of this research). And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, when you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart; also see, who is likely to cheat).
B· Research consistently shows that 2 to 3% of all children are the product of infidelity (see, Anderson). And most of these children are unknowingly raised by men who are not their biological fathers. DNA testing is finally making it easy for male adults to check the paternity of their children (see, paternity issues).
C· Infidelity is becoming more common among people under 30. Many experts believe this increase in cheating is due to greater opportunity,(time spent away from a spouse), and young people developing the habit of having multiple sexual partners before they get married, (see, young and restless -Wall Street Journal).
D· There are no definitive “signs of cheating.” But, in hindsight you will always find them (see, signs of infidelity).
This will give us a clear start for the subject of discussion in this series. Note that the figures and statistics stated in this series of extra-marital affairs are not only peculiar to the United State alone. Similar reasons have been previously enumerated on the subject of step-families as well. However, one problem I have realized is that these statistics might likely be higher in developing countries. The only thing is that there is no effective way to measure the figures as it relates to infidelity. The statistics used here are guides to substantiate the fact that it truly exists in large proportion and is worthy of consideration.
The next post will dig a little more into what infidelity means.
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